[ what's with all the dots is he thinking about jiaoqiu ]

Well... Most of them just expect it, so I doubt they'd even really give much thought to not wanting it. It's like saying you don't want to grow up, finding a suitable match is just part of life.

And the decisions they make about a spouse affect their status and authority, so if they want to keep being rich and powerful, they can't actually just do what they want.